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I remember I used to have a horrible recurring dream many years ago and it was always exactly the same. Got fed up with it and decided that as I was going to sleep one night that if I had that dream I would say in the dream to the other person, "You know this is only a dream?"

 

Sure enough the dream manifested itself and I said, "You know this is only a dream?" I was instantly wide awake, and better still, the dream never returned.

 

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I became a vegetarian because of a dream I had. Too scary to relate here if you love animals. I do eat fish now since the nutritionist at Sloan Kettering advised it when I had cancer. I'd still hate to be in the position of killing the fish though I think I could probably do it. Other creatures no way.

 

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2 hours ago, Betty LaRue said:

I’ve heard, Bryan, that everyone dreams about the same as everyone else, but some of us have forgotten our dreams upon awakening. As I’ve gotten older, I’ve noticed I don’t remember my dreams as well as I once did. One thing that cements them is if I wake up during or just after a dream, and thinking about it seems to cement it in my mind. I think that’s why I remember the nightmares so much, they often scare me awake. A lot of my nicer dreams I forget, but sometimes something that happens in my awake life reminds me, “Oh, yeah, I had a dream about that!” 

 

Well I've always had a poor memory Betty and some dreams are best forgotten !  My wife remembers her dreams and is able to describe in detail what was involved, generally weird and unreal but not necessarily unpleasant.

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2 minutes ago, NYCat said:

I became a vegetarian because of a dream I had. Too scary to relate here if you love animals. I do eat fish now since the nutritionist at Sloan Kettering advised it when I had cancer. I'd still hate to be in the position of killing the fish though I think I could probably do it. Other creatures no way.

 

Paulette

When my Air Force husband was stationed in Texas, we lived in Victoria. The apartment rent was so high we were starving. Truly hungry. We were invited to a farm for the day by a friend. The farmer (relative of the friend) told us we could have a chicken, but we’d have to kill and clean it. I was so desperately hungry for fried chicken I could have cried when we both declined his offer. I was 17 and 6 months pregnant. I guess we weren’t that desperate. Yet I resented my husband not being man enough to do it! 🥴

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There is a very funny scene in this film https://www.rogerebert.com/reviews/withnail-and-i-1987 in which the guys discover that the chicken a farmer has left for them to eat is a live one. Fortunately, the slaughter is not shown but the bird that goes in the oven is very funny. Plucking is not a skill they have mastered.

 

Paulette

 

I found the chicken scene.... 

 

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5 hours ago, Betty LaRue said:

When my Air Force husband was stationed in Texas, we lived in Victoria. The apartment rent was so high we were starving. Truly hungry. We were invited to a farm for the day by a friend. The farmer (relative of the friend) told us we could have a chicken, but we’d have to kill and clean it. I was so desperately hungry for fried chicken I could have cried when we both declined his offer. I was 17 and 6 months pregnant. I guess we weren’t that desperate. Yet I resented my husband not being man enough to do it! 🥴

 

Mine is a true Christmas story: we stayed in this remote place in Sumatra over Christmas. We were warned: it is the most beautiful place, very very remote and quiet, but the villagers don't want to take you there and may even warn you that it doesn't exist. All this turned out to be true. It had been planned as a Club Med. 6 or 7 huts had been finished as a pilot. Club Med had decided not to come and the owners lived in part of the dining hall. We were the only visitors.

When Christmas came, the fisherman that used to bring us daily fresh fish from the lake, did not turn up. We politely declined a chicken as a Christmas meal and said an egg would do for us.

 

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Oh my, oh my. Something bad did happen today. My friend who cancelled our Thanksgiving dinner because she was afraid she had Covid fell and broke her arm. The good news is that she had the rapid Covid test last Friday and she is not ill. But she has been through this before a few years ago when she broke her wrist. That was the left one and now she has broken the right arm. She called me from the Emergency room and at that point they thought she had broken it in two places. Fortunately, it turns out to be only one break and she is splinted and has a sling. The Emergency place is a 15 minute walk from me and I went over there and went home with her to help her get settled. She had a wonderful surgeon the last time and she is going to contact him. I hope she doesn't need surgery again but at least she knows her doctor is excellent and will do the right thing for her. So I did a lot of the things I did last time. She gives her cats food from the tiny cans and they are really impossible to open with one hand. So I opened a bunch of cans and put them in the fridge. We found a down vest she can wear on one arm and snap over the one in the sling. I opened jars and medicine containers and took down the trash. She has a housekeeper she really likes and the woman has lost the rest of her clients because of the pandemic so she is sure she can pay her to come and help. And, of course, I will continue to help. I think she is going to have more use of her hand this time and that will make a difference. Be careful. Don't fall.

 

Paulette

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3 hours ago, wiskerke said:

 

Mine is a true Christmas story: we stayed in this remote place in Sumatra over Christmas. We were warned: it is the most beautiful place, very very remote and quiet, but the villagers don't want to take you there and may even warn you that it doesn't exist. All this turned out to be true. It had been planned as a Club Med. 6 or 7 huts had been finished as a pilot. Club Med had decided not to come and the owners lived in part of the dining hall. We were the only visitors.

When Christmas came, the fisherman that used to bring us daily fresh fish from the lake, did not turn up. We politely declined a chicken as a Christmas meal and said an egg would do for us.

 

wim

An egg! That’s terrible.

My first Christmas as an airman’s wife, the story above (no money, no food/high rent) was in place. We’d been married 3 months and at that time we were in Indiana. I was only a few weeks into a pregnancy and so sick to my stomach I felt like death warmed over. I even threw up water if I took a drink and had already lost more weight than I could spare. We had no food except cold cereal which was cheap back then. But the smell of the cereal made me barf.
We were on the top floor of a two story house with an exterior stairs. Our landlady and her husband lived on the first floor. She fixed a full Christmas dinner, turkey, dressing, all the trimmings. But they were tiny, old people, skinny, and they ate like birds.

She brought up one plate of food for us. Tiny helpings that really wasn’t enough to satisfy my husband but probably looked like a feast for them.

I was starving. I hadn’t been able to eat much since becoming so severely ill. But I knew if I shared the food between us, it would just come right back up. So I told Bob that I wasn’t hungry and for him to eat it.

That was one of the hardest things I ever did, telling that lie, because it was the first thing that smelled good to me in a long time.

In February, I had a miscarriage. Could have been from malnutrition and dehydration. I’d been 16 years old for 2 1/2 months.

 

I’m a firm believer that hard times, and somehow finding a way to survive them, only makes one stronger.  It has me.
Paulette, I’m so sorry about your friend. No time is a good time to break a bone, but her timing particularly stinks.  She’s lucky to have you.

 

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That puts things into perspective Betty, I've never had an experience as bad as that.

 

We're trying to help support a friend who recently lost her husband after a long illness and who lives in a large rambling house with many issues, both real and imaginary. Lockdown has made face to face help impossible recently, but with some easing of the restrictions, my wife is travelling to see her in a public park today. A difficult call, you are expected not to travel unless for work etc, but this is a mental health issue. My wife once lost a work colleague due to suicide, and while she was in no way responsible, she still has guilt about it. You have to make judgement calls throughout this crisis, whether it's to go into a shop to buy food, use public transport or whatever. 

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So sorry to hear of everyone's tough experiences above. So sorry what you went through at such a young age Betty. That's a lot to deal with at age 16. Broken bones seem to be what's happening right now. I found out yesterday my aunty has fallen and broken her pelvis and is in hospital. She is upset she's going to miss my Mum's funeral on Friday. I will go in and visit her soon. She has a son and a sister living here which is a good thing.

 

I've been diagnosed with a progressive autoimmune disease which has also come at a not great time, and the specialist wanted to do a biopsy on me tomorrow, but I've rung to postpone that for now as have too much else to deal with.

 

One day soon I will get out with my camera again which I find absorbing and healing and is a chance to live in the moment and forget about everything else.

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this is the brain activity area where we most often have dreams we remember.

 

Hypnagogia, also referred to as "hypnagogic hallucinations", is the experience of the transitional state from wakefulness to sleep: the hypnagogic state of consciousness, during the onset of sleep. (The opposite transitional state from sleep into wakefulness is described as hypnopompic.) Mental phenomena that may occur during this "threshold consciousness" phase include hallucinations, lucid thought, lucid dreaming, and sleep paralysis. The latter two phenomena are themselves separate sleep conditions that are sometimes experienced during the hypnagogic state.

 

have you noticed how quickly we forget the details of a dream? 

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So sorry to hear how hard Covid is making it for you all. I can only imagine what it's like.

 

Betty, I'm so sad for your younger self... I too was a child bride but didn't suffer any hardships at all, I don't think I've ever gone hungry.

 

Paulette, I hope your friend heals quickly.

 

Sally, you really are going through a lot at the moment. I hope you eventually find some time for you and your camera.

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Oh boy, it is getting tough to read this thread but I am so glad we have it.  It is always good to remember that most everyone is going thru or dealing with something adverse in life.  So important to be kind to strangers and one another.  Yesterday I had a shoot at an addiction clinic in a tough part of DC.  I wasn’t photographing the clients but was there to photograph the staff and volunteers.  It made me appreciate just how fortunate I and my family are, even with our little struggles.
 

I hope this holiday season can bring good health and healing to all of us!

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Outside my house Thames Water have dug up the the same area of pavement now 3 times in 3 weeks, yesterdays dig happened while I was out. This time there is no space to park my small car outside. They investigate, find no leak, then the hole is filled, allowed to settle for a few days before neatly capping it. This time the same hole, more cones, signs and pavement ramps, but only 2 workers and a small van, they have been standing around since 7:30am. On the bright side I was hoping for some more interesting photography documenting their work, but I have to go out at around 11am.

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9 hours ago, Ed Rooney said:

oh my

 

Are you getting any help, Edo? I'm sure there is help available.... social services or private charities. When the pandemic started the senior center I had registered with started calling me once a week to see if I needed anything. The Salvation Army called to thank me for donations but also to offer help. One of my neighbors is getting free groceries delivered (I think through a city agency). And, of course, there is Meals on Wheels and God's Love We Deliver. My friend is lucky to be able to spend at least a little on help and she also has another friend besides me who can come to her place. You are in a difficult situation being new and not having a network of friends there but I bet there are options. If you have any tips for living with a hampered arm let me know!

 

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I'm doing the best I can on my own, Cat. I report events here but I won't be getting into discussing details of this complex situation. Thanks for asking.

 

The city opened up again today in the lead up to Christmas.

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16 hours ago, Ed Rooney said:

this is the brain activity area where we most often have dreams we remember.

 

Hypnagogia, also referred to as "hypnagogic hallucinations", is the experience of the transitional state from wakefulness to sleep: the hypnagogic state of consciousness, during the onset of sleep. (The opposite transitional state from sleep into wakefulness is described as hypnopompic.) Mental phenomena that may occur during this "threshold consciousness" phase include hallucinations, lucid thought, lucid dreaming, and sleep paralysis. The latter two phenomena are themselves separate sleep conditions that are sometimes experienced during the hypnagogic state.

 

have you noticed how quickly we forget the details of a dream? 

You mention sleep paralysis. That has happened to me. Awake but not quite awake...try to move, can’t move.  Then tell myself to get up and I can’t. It’s horrible. Good thing is that I haven’t experienced it in the last couple of years. Which begs the question...does stress cause it? It happened a lot when I was stressed. Not since things have been peaceful.
I found, Ed, with a particularly horrible nightmare, if I woke Bob so I could tell it to him, I could shake the horror. That also cemented the details so I remembered it the next morning.

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Lots of really quite bad things being reported here, well here's not such a bad thing ! 

 

We've reached the end of our home grown onions and have had to buy some from Sainsbury's. Managed to book a click and collect slot and a good thing it was too, as it coincided with their 25% off if you buy 6 bottles of wine. Stocked up on a variety of reds. 🍷

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For some reason I can't edit my post above, could be emoji/alcohol related.

 

Reaching the end of our onion supply makes me think of the plight of the first European settlers in the USA. How difficult it must have been to get through that first winter. At this time of year we have some cabbages and kale remaining on the allotment, and we are still eating this year's crop of potatoes, and some late season apples, but there would have been  a bleak few months ahead for those who didn't have a supermarket nearby. You would find it especially difficult to survive as a vegetarian.

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2 hours ago, Ed Rooney said:

 

That's the main reason I don't give up eating meat entirely.

 

 

Edo, my heart sinks each time I see your name posting in the 'bad news' thread from the main menu. At least, it's only meat this time! 

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The NHS has been very supportive of my broken arm. Today I had my first problem with them. After fruitless, endless online research, I phoned to ask a simple, basic question: how do I make an appointment for a covid-19 jab?
 
After 45 mins of them waltzing me around, they finally admitted that they didn't know. What? This was on 111. 
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13 minutes ago, Ed Rooney said:
The NHS has been very supportive of my broken arm. Today I had my first problem with them. After fruitless, endless online research, I phoned to ask a simple, basic question: how do I make an appointment for a covid-19 jab?
 
After 45 mins of them waltzing me around, they finally admitted that they didn't know. What? This was on 111. 

 

From what I have heard and understand about the situation the NHS will call you when they are ready. It seems to be a sit and wait game. I know you will be done before me though as I am a bit younger. Just a bit, enough to be in the next group. I do not expect to be called before Easter.

 

Allan

 

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